28 Lessons from My Father

Although my dad is no longer on this earth, I still like to think of ways to honor him. I’d like to share some of the wisdom he passed on that guides me throughout life, and that I’m passing on to my son. Some of these treasures are practical tips, and others are profound treasures that have shaped me to be the person I am today. If I may be transparent, some things I’m still working on. 

1. Help people when you can without expecting anything in return.
2. We can’t be afraid to live among all people. How else do we show God’s love?
3. Don’t gossip.
4. Plan.
5. Try to remain calm. Don’t let people get you upset.
6. Don’t let anyone else spend your money.
7. You can choose whether to be offended or not.
8. Forgive.
9. You can’t make someone love you who doesn’t.
10. Never go on a date without any money.
11. Always have some cash on you and in your home.
12. If someone doesn’t want to be with you, let him or her go.
13. Pay your bills on time.
14. Keep your word.
15. Be patient.
16. Always have your keys out when walking to your car. Do not wait until you are at your car to look for them in your purse.
17. Refill your gas when you are at half a tank.
18. Save your money.
19. Make credit work for you.
20. Work.
21. Be a good employee.
22. If you plan and save, you can have the things you want and not owe anyone.
23.  Look at the person’s intentions before you judge their actions
24. Put your valuables in your trunk before you reach your destination.
25. Always have a spare pair of jeans and sneakers in the car in case you have car trouble, and you have to change your own tire or walk a distance for help.
26. Know how to check your tire pressure, change your tire, and check your oil.
27. Budget for car maintenance so that you don’t have to do those things yourself.
28. Be nice.

Preparing this list has brought a sweet smile to my heart. I hope it makes you remember things your parents taught you and that it gives you a little joy as well. Joy in knowing that the things we are teaching our kids now  — the nuggets of wisdom we share that seem to fall on deaf ears — is reaching their hearts. When they need it, they’ll remember it. When they are parents, they will pass it on.