For too long, women have been expected to stay out of the way in their female bubbles. We have been taught to use soft voices, to cross our legs, and to keep our hands in our laps and our elbows off the table. My sweet little one, please don’t bottle up what gifts you have. […]
Author Archive | Cate
Guilt says, “I’m a failure.” Mindfulness says, “I can do better.” Putting a positive tone to our pitfalls will bring much more success than wallowing in the muck of guilt.
What matters is how privilege is used. Understand this: No one is asking white people to relinquish or feel ashamed of their privilege. White people need to acknowledge this privilege and use it for good.
I vividly remember whipping out the old “you’re not my mom” response when she told me to get a shower one day. Real classy. Despite my feistiness, she loved me. She leaned in to nourish our relationship and, before long, she became my best friend.
Being my own harshest critic, I’m convinced the only memories my kids will have are of me yelling. As a result, I feel I can never play with them or love on them enough to make up for it. So instead, I avoid trying and stuff down more guilt and shame. All or nothing.
Maybe volume level and moldy tiles aren’t enough to convince you, so if you’ll give me a few minutes of your time, I’d like to make my case against bath time.
Instead of Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook constantly alerting me, I know when I’m legitimately needed. Let me tell you, this has freed me up to be so much more present with my children, friends, and husband. I’m not stuck nursing my phone, losing myself in the endless scrollings of Facebook, and filling my brain with […]