You see, becoming a mother isn’t always about remembering who you were before. Sometimes it’s about finding who you are now. I don’t know where my passions will lead me in the long run. Maybe I’ll be a doula forever, or maybe I’ll go back to school to become a midwife. Who knows. One thing […]
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Pregnancy is beautiful, but it isn’t always sexy. With internal organs in new locations, a protruding abdomen, and a soccer player using your womb like an arena, it’s difficult to get your head in the game. Pregnant sex requires creativity, patience, and a little flexibility. And if you’ve ever been pregnant, you know such things […]
Hey girl, are you tired of that boring ponytail? Do you need to spruce up your look, but find curling irons and wands intimidating and time-consuming? Consider this my gift to you: FIVE looks that seriously take FIVE minutes (or less). Some involve a curling iron and some bobby pins, but I promise you CAN […]
For too long, women have been expected to stay out of the way in their female bubbles. We have been taught to use soft voices, to cross our legs, and to keep our hands in our laps and our elbows off the table. My sweet little one, please don’t bottle up what gifts you have. […]
Guilt says, “I’m a failure.” Mindfulness says, “I can do better.” Putting a positive tone to our pitfalls will bring much more success than wallowing in the muck of guilt.
What matters is how privilege is used. Understand this: No one is asking white people to relinquish or feel ashamed of their privilege. White people need to acknowledge this privilege and use it for good.
I vividly remember whipping out the old “you’re not my mom” response when she told me to get a shower one day. Real classy. Despite my feistiness, she loved me. She leaned in to nourish our relationship and, before long, she became my best friend.