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Going through perimenopause doesn’t mean your libido will go away completely, but it will likely decrease considerably. And if you had difficulties with sex in your relationship before perimenopause, these issues may worsen.

Trying to conceal the pain will usually result in you unconsciously withdrawing, which may be perceived as rejection. In the long term, it may lead to withdrawal and stress on the relationship. It is better to be open and honest with your partner and your gynecologist so that you can have the most pleasurable and intimate sex life possible.

"Once a cheater, always a cheater." We've all heard that before. Every woman in the room nods her head in agreement. But I am here to tell you that it's not always true. I should know. Because once upon a time, I cheated on my husband.

Cue the good advice from well-meaning friends and Internet bloggers with all the pep talks and words of wisdom. It's good for the relationship. It's good for me. It's good for my partner. It's healthy and empowering, and on and on with all endorphins and the benefits. I know. And I don't care.

Revealing a client's images to her is amazing because I get to see that moment when it clicks for her. That “OH MY GOSH . . . that’s me!” moment. (And no, I don’t alter body shape or change what a person looks like.) It’s my absolute favorite. You can see in that instant, she understands she is absolutely sexy.

Our life was uncertain. We didn't really know how everything would turn out. But we turned to each other. Words weren't very comforting; oftentimes there was truly nothing to say. We comforted each other through sex and were shocked by the changes it wrought. Suddenly, we were connected emotionally and mentally on a new level.

You’ve had six weeks to heal and become a “normal” person again, which is super easy with all those restful nights of consistent shut-eye you're bound to be getting. Your partner has waited six loooooooooong weeks for your postpartum appointment and for permission from your OBGYN that you’re ready for sex again. He will ask with bated breath: “What did she say? Are we good?” But you're not. You're not even close.